Thanks for the insight and advice everyone. I agree with Tishie and Fullmetal that he is telling the truth. It does not make it easy, (what in life is), and although this situation really rubs me the wrong way, I have to give him the benefit of the doubt. He does come home to me. Leed and racee, yup, I have checked his phone, pockets and the like. I even try to "pop" in unexpected at work just to see whats going on. Sometimes I wish I hadn't, only makes me mad to see them in the office together chatting. I just want her to know that I am all eyes and ears and to not get to comfortable thinking she can pretend to be my best friend when she knows how I feel regarding her friendship with my hubby. He clearly knows I will definitely be gone if I ever find out that they had indeed had been intimate. An emotional affair is devistating enough. I have taken trips without him and had great fun doing so. I am trying to work more on myself, joined LAFITNESS and love it, and do things to boost my self image and aleve my insecurity. He does notice when I do these things and I notice he is more attentive when I strike out on my own endevors. I suppose when they see you can survive without them, they realize they could try harder to love you. Any hoo, thanks for the input, advice and support. Blessings to you all.