I am in need of some support, advice, or whatever. Long story short, my wife had an emotional affair about 18 months ago. We separated after that for a year and then moved back in together 8 months ago. We sought couples counseling but that didnt really help. I didnt appreciate the T basically telling me I was to blame for her affair.

We dont discuss it, its not safe. If I try to talk about it she gets angry. This is her typical reaction so that its not discussed. I have been in T for awhile now, dealing with this and other crap from my childhood. I thank God for my T, as she is a blessing. I just dont know what to do.

My wife is very angry and ironically constantly accuses me of cheating. It is maddening! I wanted this to work, but right now she has killed all feeling in me. I told her 8 weeks ago that if she didnt stop with the anger and the accusations that it would kill our relationship. She stopped for the last 2 weeks...not being so angry..but its like that saying "too little, too late."

I am having a hard time getting past the affair, what I read and wondering if I can ever trust her again. Any thoughts?