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Originally Posted by goldenwings
My husband has a female coworker who he is, what I believe, in a emotional relationship with. He is extremely defensive of this relationship with her. When I told him I felt as though he respected her more than I, he said he did respect her more.  They share personal issues, she divorced her husband shortly after he started to work with her (20 years now) and she remains single to this day.  (Waiting for someone to become available?) They have gone on trips together, taken classes together and work together every day. I am very insecure over this, but when I try to address it, he tells me I am over reacting, a jelous wife, and it ends up in a fight.  I am tired of being beat-up emotionally over her. I cant stand to be around her when I have to go into my husbands work place. But she always trys to be so nice to me, like she wants to be my buddy.  Theres so much more to this story, but I hope this briefing offers enough information for someone to help me. Thank you for any help. |
They've been working together for 20 years? If they were going to get together it would have happened a long time ago.
In my experience with working closely with people....you spend AT LEAST 40 hours or more a week, sometimes sitting less than 2 feet from someone. you are in constant contact with them and depending on the type of jobs you have, you are actually doing whatever they need (as in a secretary role). They even have the terms work-husband and work-wife because when you do spend more hours at work than you do at home, you tend to form deep bonds with people, which makes it a hell of a lot more tolerable to go to work every day.
Is your husband a jerk for saying he respects someone more than you?
Of course he is
but is he really giving you a reason to doubt his fidelity? Is he defensive of his relationship because you keep asking?
I'm not trying to be a meanie, but when a woman acts jealous, men get defensive. If he wanted to be with that woman, he would have done it already - it sounds like he's had every opportunity. Could it just be that they are friends?