Salukgirl, you would be surprised at how many people do this. Most of us are trying to get in current relationships that which we didnt get in childhood, so this is pretty common.

I agree with Lee, your girlfriend is seriously wounded, and I dont see much hope for you in the intimacy dept. unless you seek professional help. I am going into the mental health field and I know that almost all Universities have discounted or free counseling. Or local health clinics offer discounted therapy. Just call around, or call a Christian counselor and see if they can point you in the right direction.

Let us know how it goes would you please? and take care of yourself friend. Don't allow yourself to be abused and used in the process. Take care man and blessings.