We all have issues of some sort. NO ONE has come from a perfect family.

I was physically and sexually abused as a young boy. I can identify with a lot of what you said your boyfriend is and was going through. I have been in therapy for a little over 3 years and the difference is night and day.

You can have a good relationship with him. YES, he is going to have MAJOR trust issues, that is to be expected given all that he has gone through, but to dismiss him because of that would be tragic.

Here is the good part. You could be a real blessing to him. It is probably because of you that he sought therapy which is awesome. You can help him to heal. You dont need to own his behavior or accept his abuse, but you can help him to heal from his childhood.

I wish you the best and people do come out the other side better. Maybe you can go to one of his sessions sometime? Does he discuss what is going on in therapy?