ree - I know what you mean. I had the same kind of history as you. Had several long-term relationships, but nobody ever seemed to be in a hurry to get married. My brother told me it was because I give too much of myself too fast. I was married once at age 27, after living together for 4 years and like your situation, he was married once before and didn't want to get married again (eventually, he gave in but divorced me a year later). My husband now waited 4 years to propose, and it looked like history was repeating itself. However, he never said that he didn't want to get married -- he just wasn't in a hurry to do so.

Honestly, if I were 24 again, I would run fast and far from any guy who said "I don't believe in marriage". It really pushes my buttons. There are so many guys out there who WANT to get married that I don't see the point in wasting so much emotional energy on someone whose goals aren't in line with my own. It really is a big emotional drain.

Just my experience. I do know how you feel. And yes, I'm married now but it doesn't mean that the hurt is completely gone.