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Originally Posted by Malachite
Dear Yoda,
I am confused. How will hiring a maid, change my wife's disrespect for my need for orderliness and cleanliness? It would only shift my burden to the maid.
Dear WolfSong,
I value your opinion, regardless of your gender. However, like Yoda, you have not responded to my question.
Dear Leed,
It appears, we have issues in common. However, your response does not answer my question. I did not ask, how do I motivate my wife to be productive in a domestic context.
I wish you all the best,
Larry
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I am not certain what you wish to accomplish, Larry. Do you want to change her thoughts about your need for cleanliness or do you want to change her behaviors so that she participates in cleaning?
Are you sure that she is disrespectful or does she simply have different values than you?
I am a messy housekeeper. Always was and always will be. My ex-husband did not like that I was a poor housekeeper. I told him I would rather work overtime and hire a maid than clean the house by myself. But he said I needed to be responsible for cleaning house by myself because that was my role as his wife.
What does your wife say when you talk to her about this issue?