I'm sorry if it came across as minimizing. I'll rephrase. Mine comes from personal experience and I know that me not liking porn went hand in hand with my insecurities.

If you come to the realization that it's not you and you just don't appreciate it, then you need to find a guy who feels the same. We all have our own morals and beliefs which make us okay with certain things and not okay with others. The key is to find someone who agrees with you on these morals. OR if you find that these disagreements to be tolerable then there's no reason to worry.

For you it sounds like it's not tolerable. But what I meant is that, a lot of times, these feelings come through by insecurities or bad feelings toward yourself. And, if that's the case, I would hate to have a guy, performing a natural and perfectly healthy act, feeling guilty over something he shouldn't feel guilty about.

Just like you shouldn't have to deal with things you aren't comfortable with, he shouldn't have to hold himself back or change himself over something he doesn't see as a big deal. So before anything goes further, I suggest a good, open, honest talk and a good, hard look at yourself to see where these feelings are coming from. Just my opinion.