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Feb 23, 2011, 11:45 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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First you're going to have to be patient. Since you admit to ignoring her, I imagine she put more emotional attachment into her "affair" than you did, so she probably IS unhappy right now and she probably DOES miss this guy. Have you asked her if she WANTS to save the marriage or did you assume? If she also wants to, just be patient with her until she gets this guy out of her system. It might take awhile.
You're going to have to be more attentive to her - compliment her on her looks, on her dinners, on her efforts as a wife and mother. She started this affair cause she wasn't getting what she needed from you -- attention! So you're going to have to pay close attention to her and not fall back into your old habits. Don't make it "fake" tho or she'll see right thru you. If she gets grumpy, try to be understanding. She's been holding these feelings in for a long time. You're lucky she didn't bean you with a frying pan. 
Best of luck and I hope things work out for you both. God bless. Hugs, Lee
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