I am going to disagree with you Lee. She started this affair because she has no boundaries and you could also question her moral compass, his as well. He didnt make her do anything, she willingly chose to have the affair, that is a separate issue. The admitted neglect on both parts is a marital issue.

She could have come to her husband and voiced her displeasure, as he could have, but they didnt. The bottom line is no matter how bad things were between them, the individual having the affair owns it.