I have been w/ the same woman for 4 1/2 years. We had a wedding ceremony 3 years ago.
She suffers from OCD and has to have everything in it's place. She tries controling me all the time and is very demanding. I cannot even put something down like a piece of mail for a minute because she will be right behind me to pick it up....sometimes I just need space and she never wants to give it to me.
We sometimes have explosive fights. They start out over something stupid and she winds up saying rotten and mean things to me. Hurtful things.
Then in like 45 minutes of listening to her rant she comes around, cries, tells me how sorry she is, tells me she doesn't mean any of the rotten things she has said and tells me I am everything to her.
I however, a black and white borderline thinker...have a very difficult time in my head understand how someone can go from raving lunatic and telling me what a horrible person I am to tell me I am her everything. It doesn't make sense.
If I tried to leave her I think she would destroy everything in the apartment out of anger and rejection.
But, at the same time I cannot keep going on like this. This is not new...been dealing w/ it for the whole time we have been together. Now the fights just seem to not come as often.
We both have been in therapy individually and as a couple.
We both have a lot of stuff to work on, both individually and as a couple.
And, I do love her. When we are good...we are really good.
I just don't know how much more I can take of the verbal abuse.
ARRGGG!