Sus, My hubby is OCD andPanic/Anxiety, I'm Bi-Polar, and DID
We have been married 30 yrs this month and like you have had rough times, he's got to be perfect, one time Marie came out during an verbal fight and smacked the back of his chair, I would never hurt him but got so mad.
I always say, "I Love him, but sometimes I don't like him", when your love acts out tell her this and it might help