hehehe.......emotionally confused man.......that made me chuckle. i'm glad it's apparent to others. I sent him a thank you, but for the sake of the backbone I'm trying to grow, I told him how it hurts to be ignored and forgotten by a friend. He apologized, and said that he thought I needed some space because I was freaked about him telling me about the crush. I don't believe he acts like this intentionally. It's also very clear that all 3 of us had a communication breakdown, and started to assume things, but I told him that when you assume.......you make an ***** out of u and me.....trying to keep it light. I think he appreciated the honesty. I, at least feel better about the whole thing because I actually spoke up for once. It feels good to clear the air. It's also clear to any guy that approaches me with an interest that I'm off the market for quite some time..........self re-construction in progress. thank you everyone for your advice.