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Originally Posted by Fartraveler
MUE, I often feel so troubled when I read your posts, because I see you minimizing or dismissing your own distress. It sometimes seems like you think you're not allowed to feel bad, that you have to deal competently with whatever bad way anyone treats you. That if you can't, it's your own fault.
Sometimes I wonder if some of your unhappiness comes because you don't let yourself protect you. I know you often write about how the people in your group don't listen to you, and that sux. But also I wonder if the most important person who isn't listening to you is. . .you.
-Far
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I want to gently agree with this too.....I feel like there is truth in it for you, MUE. I have done the same to myself, minimized my pain, because it seems small in comparison to someone else's or I think it could have been worse, too. Not acknowledging my pain, dismissing or minimizing it, has kept me from healing for many years; maybe has kept the wounds open instead....
Maybe true, it could have been worse for you.....but that doesn't matter. It could have been much better too....mistreatment is mistreatment, a violation is a violation, trauma is trauma. This incident that happened with that guy, and then what he said now, this is significant trauma, significant pain which you have the right to feel and not dismiss/minimize. You have the right to accept that you have a valid reason for your pain, that you have suffered....listen to what your heart is telling you about your pain, your needs, your need to heal....this can help you heal so much more.
I care about you and I'm thinking of you today, too, and hope session goes well!