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meowsers said:
in my family if you didn't get something instantly, you were 'slow'

intellect reigned supreme

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So this is what you took in as Parent information. This is what you were told to beleive. They probably even used the words, stupid, idiot, retarded, blah, blah, blah.......and as children, at their mercy, we had to beleive it. And so you as a child, never think of yourself as 'OK'. You grow up thinking 'I'M NOT OK' because of the crappy info you have in your head. My own mother still tries to make me feel like ***** to this day! Thank the Lord she is 1000's of miles away. Plus there is always the possibility that the persons you are emotionally dependant on, are in fact inflicting Emotional Blackmail on you because they know of the weak state your Adult is in.