Many years ago.....in a life time long ago & far away before I got married to my husband in 1975, I had an issue with the way he handled his ability to be responsible. We were both in college....I was still getting my degree, he got his degree & felt the bank he was working for owed him a programming job because he had worked for them & got his degree, but his GPA wasn't acceptable. He bragged about his IQ, but had an attitude about applying it. He felt that he never had to do anything that was beneath him & his arrogance caused him to feel so much smarter than the professors (when in reality he wasn't). I didn't see the attitude until the job situation & it just really turned me off so bad I wanted to NOT GET MARRIED.....but my Mother kept telling me, "he's such a nice guy & he's young (23), he'll grow up & become responsible when he has to & the invitations for the wedding are already sent out." Needless to say, my respect for him was non-existent at that point & unfortunately, throughout our marriage, he never did grow up to be responsible & was always fighting me on responsible issues in the marriage. He never did anything to make my respect for him grow.....but seemed to contantly be doing things to cause me to have less & less respect. I couldn't love someone I didn't respect & having sex with someone I didn't love was miserable & basically impossible....just enough to end up having one child. Know that bringing her into our miserable marriage was seriously a bad idea & has caused her no end of problems in her life.

My husband was a nice person. He would do nice things that were the right things to do but really NOT our of his heart, but he was just horribly irresponsible to the point where I have finally left him & realized after 33 years that I never did love him because I never did respect him. Only was able to realize this after I was able to get away from him & able to really see the truth about the situation.

What I am saying is that the fight you had might have caused a huge issue with your respect of him & even though he's doing nice things for you now, there may be something broken in the respect end of your relationship......which effects the real feeling of loving the person & without loving the person, sex is NOT possible for most people as the attraction comes from loving the person & from respecting them.

I know that if my husband had shown responsibility, I would have come to respect him as a good husband.....I was open to looking for it & trying to give him every possible opportunity to prove himself.....but it never happened. I ended up hiding in my career after we ended up having our daughter & it wasn't until I lost my career that the marriage situation became a serious issue.

There may be something more under the nice things that your BF is doing for you that you need to get in touch with.....if there isn't anything other than that....TIME WILL HEAL. Time can heal any problem if the other person is willing to work on what is really the problem....surface problems are the easiest to fix.....deeper problems are definitely much more difficult when it come to attitudes & personalities. Important to really be in touch with WHAT IS bothering you so you will know what you need to do......work on the relationship, or leave......but you have to know how important the things are that are bothering you also & just how seriously they do effect the relationship & your feelings toward your BF.

Wishing you the best with this & hope that all will work out well for you both.