Thanks for the kind words. I've been carrying those feelings for my T. for about a year maybe longer before I told her yesterday. Wasn't planning to - just evolved during the session. Before I knew it we were there. I don't remember the drive home it was so emotional telling her. To her credit she was wonderful about it all. We made a deal that if at any time I needed reassurance that she wouldn't leave me (my biggest fear in telling her) I could email her or call - every day if necessary for a while. This lady has touched something in me that has needed touching for a long time. By everything I'm reading OF COURSE I'd be attracted to her. I just have to figure out how to put my fondness for her in it's proper place I guess. Don't know how & it's awfly painful right now. That plus the guilt regarding my wife - we've been together for over 25 years & really do love her dearly - what a mess!!! Feel so disloyal to her. My T says we'll work it out - that I've made a start by getting it out there. In spite of her reassurance & encouragement I'm still scared I'll run her off with this. I tend to "latch on" when someone shows me attention. And I become dependent. Feel too needy sometimes - well all the time... And embarrassed it's come to this. Day at a time I guess. One thing is nice - stumbling on this website & reading these posts has shown me I'm not alone with this. I was sure nobody else went through this. Something must be wrong with me for feeling these things. Or some sick perv who lusts for other women behind his wife's back... Y'all sound pretty normal to me! And caring & Kind & struggling to make sense of it all - like me. Glad I'm here. Need all the help I can get. Hope somebody else responds. Other than the hour a week I see T there's no one else to talk to about this for me. Certainly can't discuss it with the wife & I really have no friends. Certainly none I'd trust with this. Anyway, thanks for responding.