Thanks for those kind words. I'm glad I stumbled on this site. Reading the posts, I now see I'm not the only one who is going through this stuff. I was sure there was something wrong with me for having those feelings. Comforting to know I'm not alone with this. I sat on my feelings for my T for about 2 years - swore I would never tell her - convinced I'd lose her if I did - waited for them to go away. Or tried to talk/reason them away. Didn't happen. Meantime, my feelings of guilt/shame knowing I was having these feelings for my T when thinking of my wife were suffocating. My wife & I have been married for over 25 years & she really is the love of my life. "How could I be so emotionally disloyal to her?? Etc., etc." My T & I have talked some about the sexual abuse & violence. She knows more about me than anyone else I know - even my wife. And my T was quite wonderful when I told her I loved her yesterday. Made a deal that I could call or email daily if I needed to for assurance that she "isn't going anywhere." Tuff session! Don't remember the ride home - but there's been alot of those... My T says we'll "work this out." Thank goodness! There hasn't been anybody to talk to about this. Certainly couldn't discuss it with the wife, and I don't really have any friends - at least none I can trust with this. I've had to deal with this alone. Exhausting!! At least now for an hour a week at least maybe we can begin to get to the bottom of this.. Again, thanks for responding. I can use all the help I can get!!