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Originally Posted by ladymacabethadmunsen
hi everyone.
I know this could go to the sexual/gender issues forums - but i am asking here because parts have been demanding lately.
NO GRAPHIC DESCRIPTIONS here - i just wanted to say that...well...
They claim to use things that i would NEVER and things that i would consider only perverts would do. I am afraid of addiction but they say that since i suppress it THEY have it...and yeah..well ...there seem to be too much of that in me - or me+all of us.
I may go out of therapy soon and anyways its not VERY helping...just little...not for ALL of it by far. We are doing P.E now for PTSD so anyways i am do not feel like bothering therapist with this. I know you folks will not solve it for me here - i ma just wondering how do you cope with alters` different....hmm..DESIRES... if you have. I know it may come from CSA and later SA that according to alters and flash backs - if one would believe - lasted many years...
But how do you deal with is? On one hand stay authentic..
Well i am just quite bothered and i don`t want to be addicted although so many parts seems like they are.  |
how about taking a sex education class or sessions with a therapist. thats what my partner and I did when we encountered this problem. through therapy and classes I learned I wasnt alone in having alters that were so drastically different than I was including in areas of sex and sex topics. I learned how to be loving and caring to myself and that filtered down to those all within. we started real easy with touches ... that were non triggering and as things became more comfortable expanded our horizons by experimenting, stopping when uncomfortable and experimenting some more. At first I was afraid of becoming an addict but my therapists explained to me I would not become addicted. Sex is a normal part of life. unfortunately for some of us it was used in the wrong way by those that abused us. so it became taboo and something to be afraid of.
now Im fully integrated with all my alters including those that enjoyed acting out things that were done to us and considered taboo to us. none of us became addicted. we just became healthier.
suggestion take it slow and easy. when something bothers you stop. and seek out those therapists that can teach you how to have a healthy sex life, so that those that need a bit of edge added can also have their needs met but in a healthy way.
planned parenthood is a great place to start, all their therapists around here are well versed in the needs of survivors and sex.
