Hi Suzzie,
#1: Do you just THINK you are frustrating your T, or did she tell you that?
I only ask, because I know how you feel. I used to go to every session terrified that *this* was the day that she finally could not stand me any longer and my non-talking, so she would fire me. I suffered in silence about that for a long time too. One day I finally got the courage to at least e-mail her my fear of her hating me/being frustrated with me/want to fire me. She wrote me back and said that wasn't true.

I still didn't believe it. Unfortunately, I had to keep questioning that over and over, and see that her response didn't change, and more importantly that SHE didn't change. Actions do speak louder than words. There was no magical moment in which it clicked for me, and Im' sure that I will falter again. It was time and slowly building trust that she was telling me the truth that allowed me to believe that.

Only then, did I start opening up more. My therapist was/is very patient. This took almost 3 years! And also a new approach (but thats just me). It was me who was putting so much pressure on myself, thus creating a worse situation for me. My T always,always told me that there was a reason I was so nervous and scared in there. That it wasn't just me being stupid or un-cooperative. Turns out, she is right.

Like always.

For a long time, I just kept showing up. That was the only thing I could do, but it showed that I was still trying, even if I did want to bang my head against the wall at my own silence. Keep trying, you will get there. It just may take longer than you hope for, or would think.