I relate. I've heard "hypochondriac" many times. I have BPD, Chronic Major Depression, PTSD, and on the physical side, diabetes. All of these are serious illnesses. But I've actually been told by family that nothing is wrong with me; it's just the doctors trying to get rich. If I'd only "straighten up and fly right" and do what those family members tell me to do, everything would be fine. Yes, this includes the diabetes. According to some of my family, I don't need insulin, I just need to have enough discipline to eat right and drink plenty of water. If a finger-stick test shows a high blood sugar reading, that's not evidence of diabetes, it's evidence my machine must be inaccurate. After all, nothing is wrong with me. Denial. Denial. Denial. I remember times as a child when I desperately needed medical care, but it was not provided for me, either because my parents didn't believe me, or because they didn't want to have to pay the bill. Or maybe, they didn't want to pay the bill so they *said* they didn't believe me.

The bottom line is, my family no longer makes my medical decisions for me. I am 46 years old, and I make them for myself. That's what any of us needs to do. Please ourselves, and if we so believe and desire, please God.

I'm sorry your mother is treating you this way. Don't treat yourself just as badly. Whatever you must do to take care of yourself, in a healthy manner, do it.