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Old Feb 25, 2011, 05:51 AM
sailboat sailboat is offline
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I know I've asked similar questions before and it seems like this issue just doesn't go away.
The past few weeks have been really hard for me. I'm doubting whether T is the right T (because of her lack of apparent caring, empathy, her distance. That she sometimes accepts talking about "us" and sometimes tends to not be so gracious...there are a lot more of those) , whether CBT is the right approach for me etc.
Whenever I'm in session I no longer really listen to what she says but how she says it, what vibe I get from her and so on.
She's made some mistakes that might be tiny ruptures (I have to read the thread on what ruptures are) and I've become very wary of her and her methods.
So basically, I haven't got a lot to lose.
And I've been thinking day and night on how I can resolve this issue with her and find out whether it's even resolvable and if not, look for a new T

Is it ok for me to ask questions such as:
- do you think I'm working hard? (because I feel like she's giving up)
- how do you perceive me? do I seem depressed? sad? (because I can tell her "everything is going downhill" and after asking what exactly, she doesn't say anything about it anymore. So she acknowledges it but it's like "ok. moving on")
- do you even WANT to work with me?
- do you have a PLAN how to help me?

It's possible that I see her from a very wrong perspective that is not reality but IF I were to choose a different T, I want to know some things for her because otherwise, I wouldn't find closure at all.

Am I being silly? Feel free to be honest, I don't mind. Rather embarrass myself here than in her office

Last edited by sailboat; Feb 25, 2011 at 07:16 AM.