Very wise Jazzy!! I do wonder the same. And it scares me beyond belief if what I'm doing to myself by going to therapy messes me up more than it helps me. The fact that I've gotten worse since I started does not help with this guess.
I also hate being attached so I tell myself over and over that I'm soo not attached and she's just T and whatever, who cares
So basically, all I can say is: I feel you