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Originally Posted by sittingatwatersedge
Do you think I will make it [be one of the ones who change, and not one of those who get stuck in blame and then quit]?
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OH, another hug!!!! Thank youuu!
Perfect question! Totally get why you wanted to ask!! And I'm so glad Ts answer was reassuring! I need to ask this too although I'm scared of the answer.
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Originally Posted by treehouse
Oh my gosh, I've asked everything from "are you going to refer me?" to "do you like me?" to "do you roll your eyes when you see an e-mail from me in your inbox" to "am I your favorite?" to "can I hide in your office while you see your other clients?"
I wonder why it's so scary to ask questions? Because it was for me too for a while.
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Do you think Ts will lie in our faces when we ask those questions? Because they know how much they'd hurt? I mean, I don't think I would tell anyone I didn't like them if they asked. I love how courageous you are and just get it out there! I need to do that too.
I guess it's scary because you may look like a fool or at least feel like it,
I always feel like a child asking such questions even though they are killing me. Also, being afraid of the answer is a major factor I believe.
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Originally Posted by Eileen2010
I am a totally shy non talker...but the following week I pushed myself to ask if we could look at our treatment plan (agreed and signed by both of us after about 3 sessions).
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Oh yes, I bet the treatment plan from the beginning looks a lot different but T asks me every few weeks so we update it together. (btw, I have similar goals
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Originally Posted by poetgirl76
and they are relevant to your therapy and your thoughts/feelings, it's good to ask them, because it's better to ask and get answers than be stuck wondering what the answers are!
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Yes, it's definitely better to ask... if only I was less afraid
I'm so happy you trust your T to answer honestly.
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Originally Posted by sittingatwatersedge
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Oh, hahaha, wonderful question! I want to know too.
***to all: what are boundary-crossing questions? Just so I know because I tend to be oblivious to things even if they stare me in the face.