Thank you to everyone who replied to my earlier (first) post "my daughter". I have some additional questions. I understand no one here, including myself, can diagnose my daughter, but I am trying to learn how to best handle this situation so will give you some more details.

First, my questions;
a) Her illness seems to be offlimits for discussing (because she is in denial). Is there a suggested way I can bring this subject up without causing her to be angry and withdraw from me?
b) We could be talking about any subject and if I ask a question, express any disagreement or if she interprets in any way that I am contradicting her that could also cause anger/irritability/withdraw from me
c)Does this mean I should always agree with her? I can never question anything she says? In effect, I can never have a normal conversation with her because it cannot be a two-way discussion?
d) When she says something hurtful to me how shld I respond? Ignore it? Say something like 'I'm sorry you feel that way" and end the conversation? If I end the conversation (which I sometimes do) then I risk her not speaking to me for a period of time (not always - sometimes we will talk the very next day and either she forgets the prev discussion or chooses to forget about it)

Just to give you some idea of previous interactions with her:

- I ask her how she is doing/ what she is doing - she respond I'm doing drugs and then I'm going to get married, stay married to someone for 10 years, then leave him because I'm not happy and then neglect my kids for the rest of my life (my kids lived with me after the separation and I never neglected them)
- accuses me of choosing 'a man' over my kids (I remarried yes but this statement is not true - very hurtful)
- expresses concern for my safety because she thinks I am sleeping around on my husband (NOT true)
- when I say that is a weird comment to say, she then says she cannot speak to me without my thinking she is schizoprenic or weird
- another time she had a complete breakdown and was distraught over supposedly sexually abusing a younger sibling when she was a child (
- she thinks she is her dead sister (whom she never met )
-she talks about having paranormal abilities (I ask her what this means and she didn't get angry to this - just said she can read people's minds and it's not scary at all)
-she gets very angry at me for 'speaking with one of her girlfriend's mothers' - I am confused because the girl she is talking about is someone from when she was little and I have no idea what she is talking about
- gets very angry and says if i don't leave the devil will come out of her and she threatens to throw something at me
- then quiets down and asks me to take her somewhere safe - I say I m happy to do that but when she hears I want to take her to Emergency, she gets upset again and says NO, somewhere out of the country, no doctors, no needles
(majority of above happened just prior to her being involuntarily admitted to hospital recently)

While in hospital she thought her room was bugged and the payphone was tapped. When I talked to her about this and said I didn't think so, she did not get angry this time.
She asks me, if when she was a little girl, did I call the government to bring some recreational program to our local park? I say no, why? No anger here.
- tells me how she was watching tv in the common room and male nurse was there and she got VERY worked up telling me she knew what he was thinking and he didn't think she should be watching this program because she was not american and she should have no interest in politics. When I suggested perhaps he wasn't thinking that at all, she got very upset
- she asked me about work and trying to keep the mood 'light' I told her I work with a great bunch of people and she responded 'well that's good if work is more important to you than your family"

- she has also had episodes of being very low and talking about suicide - fortunately she has never attempted anything to date.
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She has been in therapy off and on over the years so she certainly has had access to professional help - she just doesn't stick with it. She has just been releasd from hospital ( I think she hides certain things from them because she wanted to get out - but I could be wrong - now I am st arting to sound suspicious!?) She chooses not to live me now and stays with father (who is also in denial of any illness going on). Her first day back she was very hurtful to me saying she doesn't trust me and isn't gong to tell me anything about her follow up care. The nxt day she calls me sounding very sociable and wanting to see me. So I will be seeing her today - unless she changes her mind - but I am nervous as to how I conduct myself around her??!

Crazy to be nervous around my own daughter. I want to see her/ be with her, but I'm thinking I have to keep the health subject off limits? I am going to take someone's advice from here and seek professional help myself on how to deal with this, but in the meantime I am so consumed by all of this and am sooo grateful to everyone here for your feedback and suggestions. Sorry for such a long post!