Having worked with many different therapists from many different schools of thought I think 90% of it is ole boys stuff and a crock of s*.
Yes, I work with a T one a month. We don't do all the transference BS she is more a life coach.
I see massage T weekly. That is where my real healing comes. If I say I need to see her out of the office to make it more like real life we go for a walk in the botanical gardens. If I say I need you to touch me here, hold me there she does. If I get cold she wraps me in a blanket. Thirsty? she gets me a glass of water. I know her home address and phone number and still respect her privacy. I have met her daughter and heard stories about both of her kids and what she was like as a kid. If she is sad she cries with me, if she is happy she cries too. Her feelings are out there and welcome in the room as much as mine. She is REAL. When I ask for what I need in therapy I am told to grieve what will never happen. When I ask for what I need with massage T I get it and leave with that full & sleepy feeling you get after a good meal. If massage T asks me to take a risk she will take a risk with me, there is Balance and equality... mutuality. THAT is where the healing comes. Traditional therapy is a crock.
I'll kindly step down now that I am done ranting.