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Feb 25, 2011, 10:44 AM
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Member Since: Jun 2007
Location: Chicago, Illinois
Posts: 5,518
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I agree wolfsong. It would help if your husband could view you as a delicate, fragile and beautiful flower - something to savor gently and with much care. If he were to do this each and EVERY time he approaches you for sex, consistently without further expectations, you might be able to build your trust back in him. Maybe you can reach an agreement that you won't leave him "hanging" (stopped in mid-action) as long as he's very careful not to hurt you. 
Who knows how you'd react if you knew how much he treasured you and your sex life with him. It could possibly free your heart, mind, and body to surprise him with a little unexpected creativity - or take charge altogether, without him having to lift a finger. Still, you'd have to have complete trust in your partner - so he's got some homework to do too. 
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