Transference is a very, very powerful thing and can be really helpful when dealt with properly. I think the first step is one that you have already taken which is telling your T about how you feel. That is usually the hardest step of all because we tend to feel such shame and embarrassment about it. My hope for you is that your T remains ethical and helps you to explore the transference and by that I mean helping guide you to understand what transference really is and how to deal with it. Transference is not only limited to a therapeutic relationship and is so very common with almost every relationship we find ourselves in. It sounds like you are in a lot of distress about your feelings towards your T and what that means about you as a person. We all tend to judge and analyze our feelings and thoughts which in turn make us feel worse. Try to be more mindful about the passing feelings and thoughts that you have toward your T. Simply notice them as just a feeling and just a thought and let it pass through your mind. Don't judge it as "good" or "bad". These judgments make us label ourselves as "crazy", "disloyal", and "guilty". Remember that these are all conclusions from your own judgment about the natural and common feelings and thoughts that we all experience in therapy. Put your best interest in mind here because this is about you, not your T. If you think you can continue working with her and perhaps working through the transference then by all means, do so! But if you find that these feelings and thoughts are becoming too distressing maybe it is time to seek a new T.

I have a lot of experience with transference, especially transference/counter-transference that occurs during therapy. PM me if you would like to talk further about it. Stay strong and know that you are not alone in this!!!