LOL. He was like "I honestly have no idea". Which made it sooooo tempting! Because...what WOULD he do?!

I told my H I asked T that and my H said "poor T". LOL That's generally H's response to any news from therapy.

As for boundary crossing questions, I used to be terrified of them, so I didn't ask ANYTHING, because I didn't know what the boundaries WERE. When I finally let myself literally ask anything I wanted (like "can I go through your other clients' files?"), it was so freeing. Because I never got in trouble for asking, T answered what he wanted to, and it just made everything feel a lot safer and more okay.