I was thinking this morning that I was maybe a bit harsh...one of the things I'm working on.
I really do hope it helps; one of the hardest things for a parent to do is let the adult child make their own mistakes. And for me, it's tough knowing that I am accountable for my own actions even if it's the BP causing it; I still have to make amends and not excuses.
I hope your daughter finds her way with your guidance, and I'm sending vibes of peace and strength to both of you.