Yet another thread from me! For those of you who have seen my earlier threads (My daughter) (Questions on how to respond with BPer or SAer) , I need some further feedback: (miss laura and mgran are familiar with my threads...

As a reminder, my 22 yr old daughter was just released from hospital after 2 weeks being there. She is in denial about having an illness. (thinks she has anxiety only now) But if you see earlier threads noted above I believe there is an iillness like BP or ??

We had agreed to go to a movie and maybe hit the book store, go for a bite to eat etc. I could tell when I was speaking to her on the phone she seemed a little 'off' but whatever... I picked her up and we started driving.

The roads here are a little messy with melting snow etc and my windshield kept getting dirty so I was flipping on my wipers and cleaning the windshield as needed. (fairly frequently) Out of the blue she feaked out on me. She says very irritably: "will you fu*** stop doing that??!"

Taking Miss Laura's advice from before I acknowldged how she felt, and said sorry if that seems to bother her, but I need to clean my window so I can see to drive. She went on to say that the window is clean enough and I don't need to keep cleaning it as often as I am.

I dropped the subject and we started to talk about something else but it was evident she was agitated. She then has another outburst that I am driving too fast and will I "f*** slow down? I tell her I am driving along with traffic and there is no need to swear at me.

She starts on about how she just got out of hospital and she is still feeling anxious and I do nothing to help her. She tries to express how she feels to me and for once she is standing up for herself and 'setting boundaries' whatever that means??

I tell her I would love to hear what she has to say and would want her to express herself to me, but I do not appreciate her swearing at me and she doesn't have to be disrespectful to me. That REALLY sets her off... "disrespect you say?? dont get me started on that " she says.. and proceeds to swear repeatedly....

So I turned the car around and we headed back and I dropped her off, but not before she told me that the nurses in the hospital treated her better than I do and 'nice chat' she says very sarcastically...

Just when I think I'm going to get a better handl on this and learn how to deal with it... I fall apart and feel I'm no further ahead . Was there anything I should've done differently? It seems it's only me she gets like this with, but I could be wrong.