"not jump to negative conclusions" - boy, isn't that an issue so many of us have? And it's so instant in my case. I always seem to condemn people and assign them motives that aren't true. In therapy I'm learning that that comes from a painful history and that we project (transfer) what we experienced from other people onto new people. Aaarrgggh! so hard to change our behaviors but when we become conscious of them, there is hope (I've been told)