I was inorgasmic in young adulthood. I didn't become orgasmic until I was about 28. It came through regular sex and not clitoral stimulation. It was different than the previous eight years with my husband. This first time came with a new relationship where by the guy was very sexually mature and understanding. I had oral sex with him first which was a huge barrier remover for me. I actually puked all over him from being bulimic for so many years. But instead of then rejecting me he understood and comforted me. Those things made the intimacy between us intense. That helped in creating the orgasmic experience along with using a different sexual position that I had never tried before. I guess in other words I was extremely attracted to him where I wasn't that attracted to my husband.