this may be a simple solution to a complex problem. when i worked as a professional, i left my life at the door. i reminded myself after work i would deal anything i was mulling over re my personal life or just to sit and cry if that's all i could do once i got home. after a while i set a time limit in the home for doing this, then refreshed my mind by relaxing before bed.
can you compartmentalize your mind this way perhaps? it sure helped me cause i had to be "on point" with the responsibilities pertaining to my job.
i hope this suggestion may help you.