i hate the THINGS my father did to me and my siblings as a child. part of me wants to hate him completely, but he is my father. i guess i mostly pity him.

is it okay to hate? i believe hate is coupled with many health problems in the long run. i think heart disease, high blood pressure are two health risks for holding hatred in one's heart. hate results from a rigid attitude. being more flexible about things and people (allowing others to have faults) is a more healthier way to live. so if you value your health, then i'd say that holding hatred of another person for an extended period of time is not an okay thing to do.

[i] <font color=purple> Absolve you to yourself, and you shall have the suffrage of the world." Ralph Waldo Emerson</font color=purple>