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Originally Posted by helloforum
I have a similar problem, though I have an extremely active sex life for my boyfriends sake. I masturbated (never orgasmed) from a young age and indulged in online fantasy etc but never was sexually attracted to PEOPLE. I love hugging kissing and being touched and love touching my boyfriend, just dont get turned on at all by regular sex. but i think mine is because my fantasies and private arousal is over extreme fetish so regular sex isnt enticing, is this the same for you OP?
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I think it's really unfair to your boyfriend that you have an active sex life "for his sake". As your boyfriend, I would hate being lied to and deceived all this time. I don't think most guys would want to be humored in the bedroom, they would want to satisfy and reach you emotionally.
My suspicion is that you don't know what you want sexually and you need to find a way to explore this, in a safe manner. I've heard of the Sybian, which is supposed to let women explore their bodies and let them easily reach orgasmic heights, not possible to reach by other humans. This experience would in turn teach you about your own body, your likings and limits and armed with this knowledge, you would legitimately be able to be satisfied by your boyfriend in REAL LIFE.
Make sense?