So sorry! As a word of caution - must you quit your job - will you have a source of income if you do? I don't know anything about your situation so have to ask.

Also since he's willing to go to therapy it might not all be lost, have you considered couples therapy? That is, if you want to work on the relationship with him. It sounds like you're really fed up and if it's a truly abusive relationship, maybe it would be good for you to get out. I'm just always on the side of trying to work things out - maybe that's a bad thing! But marriage and divorce are big deals... out of curiosity did he treat you like this before the marriage, or did he change once you got married? I've heard some people change the way they act after marriage.