Hi (((((Nola)))))

I think it depends what people understand by the term soul mate. If it is understood as some kind of once in a lifetime "perfect match", then I don't personally believe in that. If the term is understood to mean someone who you love deeply - imperfections and all - and who loves you back and with whom you are in a committed relationship, then I do believe in that.

I am married to a wonderful man. I love him very much and I know he loves me. We do have our issues and we've had some struggles, but we've been married almost 10 years and I hope we will stay together forever, warts and all.

However, I have been in love with other men, and my husband has been in love with other women (I'm talking about before we met each other). So I don't personally believe in the concept that there is only one person in your lifetime that you can ever truly love.

I do think you can have more than one "soul mate" (though preferably not at the same time!!!! )