I agree with Improving's post, Mue....you have done well and handled these things with courage and skill and stood up for yourself and your needs. I actually understand the guilt that comes even when you've done the right thing for yourself and your needs; it feels like you've hurt someone or been selfish, but it's emotion and not fact. There's nothing to feel guilty or ashamed about, these aren't situations where those emotions belong or serve you any use. And it could be your that aching head is making it all seem worse than it is....or thinking about it too hard makes your head hurt more. So.....yes, be gentle with yourself, rest from this right now. It's OK to take a break from solving and worrying about things and being in control. Maybe with some rest some of the emotions will untangle themselves and ebb away....