thx can't stop crying...looks like we have that in common.

learning1 --I never bring up attachment so No we never discuss it.
I'm in denial about it really. And some times I do think its worth it,
thats why I've lasted so long in therapy i think,.
other times, I don't think its worth it.
YES, posting here HELPS but, because it does HELP
I wish I could get therapists to see that this probably needs to
be incorporated into therapy in its entirety.
I think therapists NEED to offer clients a place to GO
or a place that could offer them support,
especially new clients, I think its more of a necessity
for the therapeutic relationship then a luxury.
thanks for your comment

and thanks for your reply sailboat, yes, it too, since day 1, worries me
that therapy is actually making things worse, not better.
....I feel you too.!

Thanks liam grey, I agree.i feel you, i dont understand why therapy is this powerful on its own.

Yes, Wepow, this process is anguishing and i think therapy should have and offer alternate support during the therapeutic relationship process. Thank you for your insight, as always, I'm delighted to read it.!

Hey Treehouse, Idk why I don't want a healthy attachment but, I don't. I hate gaining things because I know I'm eventually going to lose those things.

Yep, Eileen...it is good for the soul.

thanks for your thoughts embracinglife, I still haven't got the courage yet, to bring up these things with my therapist.

thank you soooo very much Rainbow. I couldn't agree more with the statement!:

""I agree that there should be a coach to help us through therapy. I agree that most of us don't know what we're getting into, and suddently find ourselves with a second set of problems that are more painful than our original problem, sometimes.

Maybe this wanting and attachment to the T is common to all humans because we all have such a strong need for connection.""
I couldn't agree more with that!

Omers, I can certainly see your point. to be honest, you make a lot of sense. I'm very skeptical of therapy now that I've been in it. What is your defintion of a massage therapist? I've never heard of that before.

sittingatwatersedge, I don't think I've 100% come to terms that it is a safe place, I'm just the type of person who will share regardless if I feel 100 percent safe. I still don't trust but, usually I'm just in enough pain to share anyway. For me, I opened up to the understanding when my pain was too much to bear.
And I feel you--on the ...therapy is so alien to your life and enormously hard for you.
I certainly feel the same way.

Blessed Rhiannon---I'm so happy you've been able to build that safe place and trust with your T!