I agree ladies. As I was growing up and especially from ages 3-14 my dad was really cold hearted fussing at my mom and yelling at me and siblings especially my one sister who was really bad at the time. Just very grouchy like he just didnt want to be around us. He`d never participate in the family he was just the bread winner and disciplinarian and my mom thinks to this day he was an ok dad because he kept a roof over our head and good food to eat and clothes on our back and didnt abuse us. and yes i appreciate that but being scared of your dad because he shuns you, doesnt seem to love or at the very least like you is no way to live. my mom made excuses galore for him and I just knew she was full of crap all these years. my mom to this day is also ultra involved and nice, perky but over bearing and likes to play the martyr when you tell her to back off. and i am at a constant war with her about her need to contol my life ( which she calls caring) and making her back off! She has never taught me how to deal with males so as a result my relationship with males has always been so weird. since my early 20s it was hell on earth. the worst losers u can imagine were drawn to me and my current bf with whom im working on breaking up with is one of them. Ive been venting about him for many months here justifying why i should give him a chance but he forgot our anniversary which was valentines day week and so I emailed him tueday last week asked him if he really wants to be with me and i gave him till friday of the end of that week to reply and he keeps giving excuses that he was tired and hes working on it which could be a legit excuse but still i dont like it! hes become such a slacker in our relationship these last 9 months and when he goes off his meds pretty soon i know he will be a lot worse but my plan to leave him is taking longer to implement. i want to just talk to him on the phone and not through email to hash this thing out. and of course he is away at school an making this tougher than it would be if he was here