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Originally Posted by happyflowergirl
To me calling yourself a "survivor" of a trauma/crime (yes CRIME) makes it easier for others around you to get past what may have happened to you and it also has a way of making the perpetrator of the CRIME to not look as guilty or to take ownership of CRIME. It also has a way to dismiss your feelings that you really need to go through in order to truly heal. There are so many survivors walking around unhealed because they were forced to be made to feel they had to suppress those feelings. We all know how well that works...well it doesn't...you can't put on a pretty name of being a survivor and feel healed if you are not.
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I really don't do well with debates or pissing contests but, as a SURVIVOR of vicious abuse, I am entitled to the right to call myself which ever noun seems to fit me best. I did not, nor will I ever diss someone for calling them self a victim. If that's the noun that they prefer, they're entitled to it...they did their time as well.
Please don't tell me I am not healed, or that I had to suppress my feelings. I have worked incrdibly hard to get to the place that I am at, and I prefer to highlight the fact that I lived thru it over the fact that it happened. Personal choice, for me.