I'm reading through both my post and Wolfsongs post and the only thing I can think of is why..why do so many partners/spouses think that our bodies are for their pleasure regardless of our feelings? Why are there so many in similar situations? Why do so many seem to think that "no" means "wait until I'm asleep/dissociating?

I really used to believe that I was alone in this...now it breaks my heart to see that so many face the same violations...

Do they really think it is love? Do they really think it's okay?

All I have left to say is...WHY?