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Old Feb 28, 2011, 05:58 PM
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Originally Posted by drpepper View Post
My boyfriend keeps telling me that I never tell him my opinions, thoughts, emotions, ideas... He feels like I don't let him in. When he asks me what I'm thinking about I always have to say "I don't know" or make something up because I really don't know how to express my thoughts. I feel like I've completely numbed myself to all feelings good or bad. I can't think clearly....

He thinks I'm keeping my emotions and opinions from him and not letting him in but I really just DON'T KNOW how to say them or sometimes I just feel like a zombie and my mind is blank and I just feel tired. We keep having these times when something weird will happen and he'll get upset and I just won't have a clue why he's reacting that way. I feel crazy! And then he'll keep talking and telling me what he's feeling and I sit there in silence while he tries to get me to talk to him. And usually I have to be away from the situation and think about it on my own to understand better...
Sounds familiar -- a little like what I described here, maybe?

That post I just linked to mentions grounding techniques -- more about those here. I wouldn't be surprised if you found some of them useful, too. Unfortunately I can't find where I first read about walking to the bathroom as yet another grounding technique. It may not even have been at PC.

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Edited to add: I did find something like it in a list of techniques for dealing with anxiety. The author calls his list "coping strategies" rather than "grounding techniques" but they'd probably work in lot of different situations: The anxiety & phobia workbook By Edmund J. Bourne. The link ^ should take you to a Google Books copy of that page.

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