You know, I think there are degrees of caring. There are total strangers who die shoving folks they don't know out of the way of cars. I've seen people get ready to put themselves at risk to knock a stupid kid out of the way of a train he was playing chicken with, and they didn't know him from adam. In that case, the kid would have been fine... there would have been seven fewer college students left to plague the world
I mean, care and care. Most folks don't know what to say, so they just cruise right on. I had a best friend who does this. She doens't know what to sya, so she acts like she hasn't heard people say, "I feel like s#%&." And she says, "Oh, that's great, I have to say, I found the best manicurist last week..." See, she has parents from the South who alsway feel that such stuff is best not dragged out and looked too closely att because it is embarassing for the person who is suffering. You move past it and shore the person up like a faulty levy so they don't break in public. Perosnally, I hatethis, but i wasn'traised like that.
Most people I think, they mean what they ask, in a quick, one word way. "how are you?" "Fine" "Surviving" "Eh.." "It'll do". I know the people that I can expect to deal with the details, the "Need to know" list. The bank people don't need to know. they are just politely openinga conversation. They get the "fine" or "tolerable" "answer.
Chruch folks, "Fine", "got a cold" " a bit tired". Friends, a bit more detail. Mom, the physical woes, a bit more if I'm down, but not so much more. good friends ore my sisters, my hubby, they can be trusted with my soul.
Then again, those annoying people who may not care to hear al lthe details, might just die to save you... care and care. I'm not sure where the line is. HUGGGSSS