Something I just thought of, rewrite the past ONLY after you have learned from it. Case in point, my life;

I was abused as a child, mentally, emotionally, verbally, and physically. Endless, unwarranted abuse because my father wanted a boy first and got a daughter instead. I was a constant source of disappointment, a living accusation that he'd done something wrong and so, nothing I could even do was good enough, fast enough and so on . . .

I made my way to a life without him, goals, plans, steps I was taking to build a better future without him. I was in good shape, put myself through school, supported myself for years alone and so on. I was in pretty good shape.

There is an old wives tale that says in any given group, boys will grow up to marry thier mothers, and girls will grow up to marry thier fathers. Regrettably, not having learned vital lessons from the years of abuse at my fathers hands, I fell in love with and married a wonderful guy just like my dad. The only difference? My Husband abused me sexually too . . .

Re-write the past? Yes, without question, a powerful healing tool, but ONLY when you have learned how to avoid the same traps in the future. I lost ten years of my life to Earl, ten years I'll never get back. I lost a great deal more than that too . . . It's going to be years before I can ever get close to anyone, and I don't know that I'll EVER feel safe around a man again . . . SO Earl's lasting damage promises to rob another ten years from me. I'm 41 now, a decade from now I'll be 51, any chance of having a "normal" family, children, grand children and a house full of love gone. So please, yes, learn then re-write . . .