Yes I have been in this situation MANY times with T - I am great at making a mess of things with him and then get myself in a complete panic over it, and the more I try to make it right the more of a mess it gets in (more and more emails/calls to try and rectify the situation). Everytime T accepts that my behaviour is part of the reason i am in therapy, and I am relieved to find out the relationship is not over. He says to me "Do you think I would be so unprofessional as to just ignore you" which makes sense after the event but is difficult to hold on to when I am panicking over it.

I do not believe your relationship with T is over at all. I think the comment about the timing of your call and email was an acknowledgement that you are/were in distress, and perhaps this is out of character for you? Not that she was complaining about your emotions.

Waiting for T to get back to me is always the hardest part...my mind goes into overdrive- what if I sent too many emails, what if he's finally had enough of me, what if I've made him really angry and he never calls back, etc. But the reality is usually that he didnt pick my message up, didnt check his emails, was too busy to respond.

I am sure T will get back to you, but if it were me and T hadnt got back to me by the morning I would have to call again to say that I am in distress at not hearing from you , can you please call.

I agree that being in T brings up no end of craziness but I am sure T will get back you on this and that your relationship is not over.