So I've started reading a book about ACA....and here is a list of things that I can relate to:

• all or none thinking
• need to be in control
• not good at recognizing my own needs
• question my feelings
• not good at communicating or expressing needs and feelings
• overly responsible and serious
• feel somewhat responsible for family problems
• problems with intimate relationships/relationships in general
• trouble trusting
• difficulty in major life transitions
• rigid

Some more explanation to of things my dad did--he acted in extremes--sometimes he would say he loved me and tell me I'm very beautiful, and spoiled me. Then other times he would say very harsh things to me i.e. telling me that he didn't want me living in his house,or saying degrading and mean things to me until I cried and then making fun of me for crying.