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Originally Posted by inbloom
Yes!! This IS the goal. It is one that I have been working on with my T for years, and I am just finally getting to a place where I trust that the safe place is always there even when that shift occurs....it really DOES shift back. Learning to trust that and believe in it is hard, and I think that it only happens from real consistency and time. I am so happy for you that you were able to connect with that safety and to feel it today! It is something to feel good about, and to hold onto for sure!  |
What I'm seeing more is that T
has been consistent in wanting to give me a safe place and be safe for me - not that I'm saying that's she's been perfect or that sometimes she didn't make a mistake that really did cause a shift - and that I have been very sensitive to anything that
felt like a shift, whether there was any shift at all. The times I felt like she was distant....it wasn't that she was (more that
I was!), but that was my perception, the assumption I assigned to what I thought I saw.....so maybe I can learn to see that it's often more that it's my perception that the safe place is shifting rather than it being a reality that it is....and knowing that can maybe help me shift my perceptions more toward what is closer to reality than what my emotional mind perceives it to be, help me remind myself that the safe place really
is safe because I have proof I can point myself back to in the moments of doubt. I think that sounds more complicated or confusing than I mean it to
