I am reminded that depression is anger turned inward. There is more than enough cause to be not just slightly upset at how you and your husband and millions of others turned out. I just had been a witness of a my friends young daughter who studied, looked for job, only thing she could find after 2 years was a dumb job in a call center, and she got depressed till she could no longer do it. She feels life is not worth living. What part of it can a person accept as merely "unfortunate"? Nothing unfortunate when you look at who profited from 2008 show and how much.

Unfortunately we are in a situation where inward is the only place our anger can safely go, but when you look at it from a certain perspective it is kinda nonsensical. Why should we be whacking ourselves for something someone else done to us so they can get richer?

I believe there is a 3rd road for you. I do not know it. But you found something when you found your assertiveness. May you find more where that come from. HUGS!!